Which of those Wheels of Life is correct? Does the Wheel of Life work at all?
I was asking myself 7 years ago when my colleague, a lawyer, a very educated and smart girl, showed me The Wheel of Life. She asked how I would rate each of the sectors based on my life?
I remember that at that moment I broke up with my ex and this part was a bottom in the personal life sector. That was zero. Working more than 40 hours a week I didn`t want to think about it, but the wheel of life didn’t get from my head out. I understood that the balance is clearly not skewed. And if I work hard, and in my free time I was only playing tennis, read books and get therapy, then I won’t get so far.
I downloaded Tinder and started dating. Unfortunately, I failed at this. I had too many false patterns in my head and my complexity even made it difficult to relate to myself, so I decided to simplify and let everything take its course. At 31, another crisis came, that I had not achieved anything in my life and I decided to change the industry I used to work in. And switched from IT e-commerce to TV Media. A new adventure has begun. Starting from scratch is my favorite hobby should I say.
But the Wheel of life got back to me through completely different information. Through the Evolution blog, the author, writer, psychologist, and publicist is Marina Komissarova. It’s a pity that English-speaking people can’t read her blog. I have never come across more valuable information about relations, but only between 2 people, but also in society. And no matter how many people undervalued her words and say that she says obvious things, let’s be realistic — we know and understand a lot, but we are not always able to overcome the emotional and mental down in our lives.
Let me translate a few facts about that Life Balance Circle, or as Marina calls it the Wheel of Resource.
“Yes, The Wheel of Resources looks like the system of astrological houses of Placidus, but he also took the location of houses from more ancient authors. 12 resources is an ancient idea of the sequence and order in which the spheres of life are located in the picture of the human world. This insight has not lost its relevance. The sequence of resource spheres is related to how brain zones are formed during the development of a child, and then a young person. You can read about the consistent development of the brain of a child and a teenager, for example, in textbooks on developmental psychology. In the books of G. Allport on the personality architecture of humans.
Resources are arranged in the form of a vicious circle — a cycle of 12 periods, each conditionally 3 years.
The sequence of resource formation describes the formation of the human personality.
0–3 years old — bodily boundaries and the child’s idea that he is a separate creature with a name and some external characteristics are formed. (This is laying 1 resource, the image resource)
3–6 years — the subject activity and the child’s idea of personal property, about the belonging of things to him, are formed. (This is 2 resource, economy resource)
6–9 years — learning skills are formed: reading, writing, and most importantly attitudes towards the learning process. (This is resource 3, learning resource)
9–12 years old — an evaluative attitude towards parents, towards their social class and nationality, self-identification as a member of the community, and tradition are formed. (This is resource 4, family resource)
12–15 years — individual creative abilities, creative thinking, perception of art are formed. (This is resource 5, art resource).
15–18 years old — a conscious attitude to one’s health, responsibility for the condition, and appearance of one’s body is formed. (This is the 6th resource, health resource).
18–21 years old — the ability to love is formed, the separation of identification and empathy, the subjective attitude to the beloved object. (This is the 7th resource, the resource of love).
21–24 years old — the main sexual skills (partnership), self-reflection in this area, sexual self-identification are formed, special inclinations are realized. (This is resource 8, sex resource).
24–27 years — a conscious need for self-sacrifice, compassion, sympathy, belonging to all mankind is formed. (This is resource 9, altruism resource).
27–30 years old — professional self-identification is formed, a place in society, career ambitions, and levels are determined. (This is a 10 resource, a work resource).
30–33 years old — a circle of kindred spirits is formed and an ideological basis for communication with like-minded people. (This is resource 11, friendship resource).
33–36 years — the perception of the transcendent, the attitude to life-death is formed, the levers of mature emotional control appear. (This is resource 12, the trance resource).
The specified ages do not mean that the resource is not formed outside this age. No, of course, each resource can be formed throughout life and should be formed throughout life, however, the external supply (social and biological) of energy to a specific resource is (approximately) associated with age, due to which work on it is more intensive and for a resource, this most often means a special, active, sensitive period, which is especially relevant for this age. If the resource is not formed at all at this time, an important step is skipped and then you will have to deal with this resource specifically. And in the sensitive period, the resource can be formed to some extent “by itself”, although not without difficulty, but with the support of external incentives.
So, for example, if from 6 to 9 years old a child does not start attending school or studying at home, it will be difficult for him later, his brain will already be formed a little differently (biological feed) and he will lag behind his peers (social feed). If a conscious attitude to health has not been formed from the age of 15 to 18, this area may turn out to be problematic for a person (overweight, bad habits). If from 18 to 21 years old a person has not experienced feelings of love, he may have a white spot in this area. If at the age of 30 a person does not have a favorite profession and no plans for a career, he feels like a renegade, a marginal (and he can behave accordingly). Etc. But everything is reversible in a living person, you can almost always catch up if you wish, a person develops very individually, skipping some stages or getting stuck at some stage for a long time. All this is not at all scary, the scheme reflects only general trends.
The key advantage of the circle of resources is that the arrangement of resources in this order helps to see biological and social patterns. Opposite resources form one line and complement each other, I often write about this. It is easiest to connect resources through neighboring ones, you are also aware (it is logical, after all, the one that was formed before and the one that was formed later can jointly include the missed one). In the circle, thanks to a successful structure, there is still a huge number of correspondences and patterns (not magical, but biological and social!) And I will definitely tell you the main ones”.
I hope my English is not hard to get this information in a good way as much as possible. Once, while I had a call with a potential client (he was originally from Italy, but moved to London to start his own media agency) and I was telling him during a zoom call something like “ a kind of company you are…” and he took it as a rude phrase. Hope this Article is not that kind of article.
BTW: following the rule of her The Wheel of Resources which means in short words as stop complaining that you get bored of your life of have no idea what to do, and how to find energy for everything that we have to do, etc. Just take an idea what if we just start to develop each part of this Wheel. 12 sectors.
